Self-Care: How to Win the Battle and the War

No one disputes the importance of self-care. A well-known analogy often used to explain this comes from air travel: you're instructed to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. The message is clear—if you're not well, you can't effectively help anyone else.

A major part of self-care involves setting boundaries. This is especially crucial in today’s world, where we're constantly bombarded by information and demands on our time. The result? Many of us feel perpetually overwhelmed.

In my experience, the most challenging place to set boundaries is within our relationships. Often, these interactions become so draining that we react impulsively—cutting off contact, lashing out, or withdrawing completely. While these knee-jerk reactions may bring temporary relief, the unintended consequences often show up later: damaged connections and burned bridges.

Yes, boundaries are essential—perhaps most essential—in our relationships. But I believe there are ways to assert them that preserve our connections rather than destroy them. Boundaries, when set with intention and care, can protect our well-being and nurture our relationships.